I've have written in the past of a former friend from my old Monday Night Bible study group. She had issues then and continues to have issues. She would often send me nasty and disturbing text messages, usually late at night. I have told her to stop and I finally put an end to it all by adding a feature on my service to block her number.
She has a new phone number... and sent me a new text message yesterday. I went back on and forth with deciding to add her new number to my "blocked" list. I called a couple of people who know her and discovered that she is no longer living in the area that I thought. Upon further investigation, I have discovered the city she is living in, and most of what she's been doing for the last 6 months using Facebook. So, without knowing her exact whereabouts, I cannot get a restraining order as of now. DH wants one... I'm trying to do what I can to avoid anymore issues.
I also discovered one more bit of disturbing information about her. Before my bible study group disbanded for the summer, ( a couple of years back) my friend told us that her father had passed away and she wasn't allowed to come to his funeral because of her stepmother. We helped her with a memorial service for her father. It was very hard to go through and we all felt for our friend. I discovered through her facebook page that her Dad is alive and well and has recently remarried! I was aware of the fact that this person had issues with lying... but this one really takes the cake for me!
Thanks for reading... be blessed.
~Suzanne
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Funny Money Troubles (from NJ)
Today has been a fairly relaxing day... given that after we went to brunch, we came home and put away all the patio furniture, flags, flowers and anything else that could be blown away. We've been under tornado watch all day. We decided to watch a movie and relax as the storms passed over us.
On a whim... (more like God prompting me) I decided to check our bank balances as we had gone to Sam's Club yesterday and spent some cash. I was quite surprised to discover that for the 2nd time in 2 weeks, that we had a large amount pending in holds. The first time was for an electric company and after having a 4 day hold, it rolled off our account. We had the money to cover it... but it still held up almost $500! This time it's for $400... and if we aren't careful, it could mess us up.
DH got on the phone to the bank where it was determined that it was my card that has been compromised. Both transactions were placed in NJ... DH traveled there not too long ago, but his card is fine! My wings will be clipped until a new card arrives later this week. To quote DH... "It's crazy!" Hopefully... the charge will roll off the account and I won't have to dispute the charge and fight to get my money back. DH is gracious enough to let me use his card... he really does love me!
Oh... we have been looking for a pantry to go on our porch... we decided that we couldn't find one we liked that wouldn't need to be modified to hold everything. So, instead we went with commercial grade metal shelving... thus the trip to Sam's. It was a fraction of the price and I don't really need doors on it... and if I did, DH could add them if I really want them. We're really liking having the extra space and it's nice to be able to reach things without having to do acrobatics on a stool or having things fall on my toes. I'm still deciding what I want to store out there, and once I'm done. I'll post a pic of what I've done.
Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne
On a whim... (more like God prompting me) I decided to check our bank balances as we had gone to Sam's Club yesterday and spent some cash. I was quite surprised to discover that for the 2nd time in 2 weeks, that we had a large amount pending in holds. The first time was for an electric company and after having a 4 day hold, it rolled off our account. We had the money to cover it... but it still held up almost $500! This time it's for $400... and if we aren't careful, it could mess us up.
DH got on the phone to the bank where it was determined that it was my card that has been compromised. Both transactions were placed in NJ... DH traveled there not too long ago, but his card is fine! My wings will be clipped until a new card arrives later this week. To quote DH... "It's crazy!" Hopefully... the charge will roll off the account and I won't have to dispute the charge and fight to get my money back. DH is gracious enough to let me use his card... he really does love me!
Oh... we have been looking for a pantry to go on our porch... we decided that we couldn't find one we liked that wouldn't need to be modified to hold everything. So, instead we went with commercial grade metal shelving... thus the trip to Sam's. It was a fraction of the price and I don't really need doors on it... and if I did, DH could add them if I really want them. We're really liking having the extra space and it's nice to be able to reach things without having to do acrobatics on a stool or having things fall on my toes. I'm still deciding what I want to store out there, and once I'm done. I'll post a pic of what I've done.
Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne
Sunday, January 31, 2010
On Facebook...
Let me ask a quick question... Isn't Facebook, if it's your personal page... suppose to be ALL about you and your life? (Or at least what you want to share?) On my facebook page... I have an assortment of friends, former co-workers, my family and DH's family. I share about what is going on in my life with all of them. It helps to keep friendships going...(or so I thought) and builds bonds with people. It has really helped to forge a wonderful bond with one of DH's sisters and his Aunt.
I know that when I share something... even something painful, that if my friends tell me that they are praying for me... I know that they are. I draw strength in that, because I am so far away from my friends and my family. Because most of my friends work... and have families of their own... and have life going on around them, this form of communication works pretty well until one of us has the time to call and catch up on stuff. (And if I called all the people that I communicate with on Facebook on a regular basis... I'd never get anything done!)
Without going into any "gory details"... one of my family members who thinks that they know me... called me out on facebook last night for posting about how I was feeling about the news of my Mom starting to go down hill... and then promptly "unfriended" me so that I couldn't even set the record straight. I was hurt and deeply saddened that someone who happens to be in my family but really hasn't had anything to do with me or my life in any real personal way for over 15 years feels that they can pass judgement on me about things that took place during my very turbulent teenage years... which really didn't have anything to do with my Mom, she just happened to bear the brunt all my issues. Or even some the years after that before I was able to make peace with my demons, go through years of therapy and come out on the other side as a pretty nice human being who happens to LOVE the heck out of my Mother and my family. (I have more than acknowledged my short comings and implored forgiveness and am very grateful and thankful to my sisters and expressed that more than once, even if they don't remember it.)
Anyway... I've decided that this will be the only place that I will deal with this... and if that person reads this... fine! Just know that I call into question: 1. Your Christianity and how your Grandmother would feel about the way you came across... where's your mercy and forgiveness... especially when lots of things have been forgiven? 2. I question your perception and how you live in pretty big glass house. You weren't the best teenager to your mother either... and you weren't the best mother to your own children as you went about your merry way. I too, know lots about you and your character. I know about your drug use, drinking, and all the many men you slept with after leaving your 2nd husband. And that you took my furniture and never, ever paid me a dime for it.... but I didn't say anything. The last time I saw you in person... you were rude and uppity and downright ghetto in your countenance. I've kept my mouth shut... tried to be kind and reach out to you... but, I think I'm done.
That's all I have to say on the subject... I'm certain that I ruffled a few feathers within my family now... I needed to speak my piece and I really just want peace within my family... and I didn't deserve to be attacked that way. Death and dying can really bring out the "ugly" in some people, I hope and pray that when my Mother passes, it will be with peace and surrounded by love... she deserves that.
Thanks for reading... be blessed.
~Suzanne
I know that when I share something... even something painful, that if my friends tell me that they are praying for me... I know that they are. I draw strength in that, because I am so far away from my friends and my family. Because most of my friends work... and have families of their own... and have life going on around them, this form of communication works pretty well until one of us has the time to call and catch up on stuff. (And if I called all the people that I communicate with on Facebook on a regular basis... I'd never get anything done!)
Without going into any "gory details"... one of my family members who thinks that they know me... called me out on facebook last night for posting about how I was feeling about the news of my Mom starting to go down hill... and then promptly "unfriended" me so that I couldn't even set the record straight. I was hurt and deeply saddened that someone who happens to be in my family but really hasn't had anything to do with me or my life in any real personal way for over 15 years feels that they can pass judgement on me about things that took place during my very turbulent teenage years... which really didn't have anything to do with my Mom, she just happened to bear the brunt all my issues. Or even some the years after that before I was able to make peace with my demons, go through years of therapy and come out on the other side as a pretty nice human being who happens to LOVE the heck out of my Mother and my family. (I have more than acknowledged my short comings and implored forgiveness and am very grateful and thankful to my sisters and expressed that more than once, even if they don't remember it.)
Anyway... I've decided that this will be the only place that I will deal with this... and if that person reads this... fine! Just know that I call into question: 1. Your Christianity and how your Grandmother would feel about the way you came across... where's your mercy and forgiveness... especially when lots of things have been forgiven? 2. I question your perception and how you live in pretty big glass house. You weren't the best teenager to your mother either... and you weren't the best mother to your own children as you went about your merry way. I too, know lots about you and your character. I know about your drug use, drinking, and all the many men you slept with after leaving your 2nd husband. And that you took my furniture and never, ever paid me a dime for it.... but I didn't say anything. The last time I saw you in person... you were rude and uppity and downright ghetto in your countenance. I've kept my mouth shut... tried to be kind and reach out to you... but, I think I'm done.
That's all I have to say on the subject... I'm certain that I ruffled a few feathers within my family now... I needed to speak my piece and I really just want peace within my family... and I didn't deserve to be attacked that way. Death and dying can really bring out the "ugly" in some people, I hope and pray that when my Mother passes, it will be with peace and surrounded by love... she deserves that.
Thanks for reading... be blessed.
~Suzanne
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Trying to stay calm...
I am trying my hardest to let stuff go... but the work situation keeps getting crazier for DH all the time! I cannot go into details... but he's definitely been targeted and set up to look bad. I am praying that all the issues will be resolved quickly and in our favor.
I went to Physical Therapy again today... another 45 minute workout... which had to be modified as my mobility is a currently compromised from my 4th injection in my right knee. It's still purple and swelled. The therapist has actually put me on bedrest again for 24 hours. I have an appointment tomorrow to see my primary care physican and I also have a follow up with my surgeon about my upper endoscopy and my ulcer! I'm sure he's gonna tell me how I got it (maybe) and how to get rid of it... (for sure)!
I do have some good news... I was contacted today from someone on Craigslist who's looking to rehome their pet... and we are their #1 candidate! I have great hopes for this little adoption process... I will keep you posted if we add to the family!
Time to go and elevate and ice again! Thanks for reading.. (Y'all are troopers!) Be blessed!
~Suzanne
I went to Physical Therapy again today... another 45 minute workout... which had to be modified as my mobility is a currently compromised from my 4th injection in my right knee. It's still purple and swelled. The therapist has actually put me on bedrest again for 24 hours. I have an appointment tomorrow to see my primary care physican and I also have a follow up with my surgeon about my upper endoscopy and my ulcer! I'm sure he's gonna tell me how I got it (maybe) and how to get rid of it... (for sure)!
I do have some good news... I was contacted today from someone on Craigslist who's looking to rehome their pet... and we are their #1 candidate! I have great hopes for this little adoption process... I will keep you posted if we add to the family!
Time to go and elevate and ice again! Thanks for reading.. (Y'all are troopers!) Be blessed!
~Suzanne
Friday, May 22, 2009
It's Blocked!
Last night while we were out doing errands... my cell phone rang... It was my stalker calling. I handed the phone to DH to let him answer the phone. She hung up on him. Within 30 seconds, there was a text message sent. This one was actually pretty funny! It said, "What a freaken fake person you are" and we both laughed, as if she had any idea who I am as a person!
Anyway... it's become quite evident that she has escalated her little assault on me as the night before she had sent a text message that DH also had picked up because I was in the other room. That message was, "Beoutch you are the worst friend i ever had"... (ummmm, yeah! I am not your friend anymore... move on and get a life!) So... I mentioned on facebook last night that she has gotten worse. My new way to answer the phone was going to be "Hello, Losers Anonymous Hotline, how big a Loser are you?" I say... WAS... as my friends from VZW let me know that number blocking under Usage Controls can be added to the account for a fee! I can now block her number and keep my own cell number! (Yeah... it's an added cost... but I don't think I will need to keep it on account forever... but I do get to keep my number!!!)
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Anyway... it's become quite evident that she has escalated her little assault on me as the night before she had sent a text message that DH also had picked up because I was in the other room. That message was, "Beoutch you are the worst friend i ever had"... (ummmm, yeah! I am not your friend anymore... move on and get a life!) So... I mentioned on facebook last night that she has gotten worse. My new way to answer the phone was going to be "Hello, Losers Anonymous Hotline, how big a Loser are you?" I say... WAS... as my friends from VZW let me know that number blocking under Usage Controls can be added to the account for a fee! I can now block her number and keep my own cell number! (Yeah... it's an added cost... but I don't think I will need to keep it on account forever... but I do get to keep my number!!!)
Blocked Numbers
Restrict phone numbers from calling or sending messages to your child.
Block unwanted calls and messages by entering phone numbers that are not allowed to call or to message your child. Your child will also not be able to call or send messages to those same numbers. Up to 20 phone numbers can be placed on the block list. 911 and account member phone numbers can not be placed on the block list. This will not affect your child's ability to call 911 or any phone number within your wireless account. You will not receive notification of attempted calls placed by phone numbers in your blocked number list.Set Blocks - You can add up to 20 contacts for each account member.
443848xxxx's Blocks
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Sunday, May 17, 2009
She's at it again...
My text stalker is at again. She's sent me 4 messages this past week. All of them at night. I have locked all the messages she has recently sent. I wish I had saved the ones from last year. I didn't think she'd continue on... but, sadly she has started to escalate. I responded to her only once, asking her to stop. I still don't want to get a new cell number, because it's such a pain in the neck to notify everyone of a new cell number... not just with personal stuff, but with doctors and pharmacies. DH really wants me to get a restraining order against her. I don't know if it's worth the trouble. But I could be mean and have her served at her job. But does that make me any better than her? I could also push back through the church... and go through the steps of mediation and she would more than likely be excommunicated. And how would that be? It would still leave her angry and lonely and still jealous... and probably still sending me harassing messages to my phone. She tells me that I am evil and the scum of the earth... but I am neither. She insists that I lied about her. I have never ever said anything against her. She has a sickness, and is projecting her sickness on to me... very classically so. I know that I have the very thing that she so craves... a wonderful husband who loves me for me.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
More Road Trip Details...
Ok... where did I leave off? Or rather what did I leave out or skip over? Let's go back to the Friend or Foe comment... I did see lots of friends... and a couple of former friends that are now foes... (pretty weird, huh?)
When we were at the funeral... and we were sitting in the back, I was able to scan across the gathering to see who was there. I noticed several people whom I knew to the right side. And lots of people on the left as well... and some one got up to leave for a few minutes, and opened a hole in my sight line to my ex-roommate! And she was not sitting all snug and cozy to her boyfriend named Shea! She was sitting all snug and cozy to someone else! (What the heck???) When I moved out, she was all set on marrying Shea once her daughter graduated high school and left for college... she was all set to marry him and his mansion and swimming pool in Virginia and never have to work again. (Guess not anymore!)
When she and her boyfriend came out of the chapel... she stood at one end of the foyer and just glared at me... she was as uptight and rigid as a 45 year old cat-gut banjo string set in the sun! She stood there and whispered... and realizing that I was not going anywhere, eventually left!
Later on, after we did our couple of errands and went back to the church... she and her boyfriend had pulled into the parking lot in his Silverado pick up... so we just sat in the car and talked until they made their way into the church... then we got out and made our way in. We greeted people we knew and chatted... Lauren, my roommate, had found seats at a table in the far opposite corner from the door, with her back to us.
Blessings and prayers were said for the food, and the family began to make their way to the buffet table. We were visiting with friends from church that hadn't known or realized that we had gotten married and moved. One friend said she thought she just kept missing me because there had been a 3rd service added and I had come to first service while she attended 3rd. So... there we are, chatting away about life and marriage, and from behind us comes the rudest, nasty voice... of Lauren, "Are you guys in line for food?" With a quick glance up, I laughingly and cheerily said.... "No, we are visiting and talking with friends." And with that, she haughtily sashayed past us and got in line. My friend Kathy came up with her peeps to get in line... and came behind us... I told her to please go ahead of us, and she refused! We had to get in line right behind the rigid, frigid witch for the buffet. Oh... horrors!
While at the reception... I took notice of a few things... Miss Lorrie J was there from bible study. When we were in study, Lauren always referred to Miss Lorrie J as "Mommy" and I always assumed they were close. In later findings... they really weren't close at all... that Lauren really was giving Lorrie J that tag as way of coping with issues with her own real life mother. During this reception, she never interacted with Lorrie J at all and ignored her. Which leads me to my next little nugget.... The Evil Text queen was also there. I knew she probably would be, as she was quite close to my dear friend Miss Char. She was also friends with Lauren.... or so I thought. Lauren also ignored her as well.... and the entire time, we (DH and I) observed that she (Evil Text Queen)did not interact with anyone there. She didn't really speak to anyone. I didn't even try to make eye contact, because I knew that if I did... I'd probably start to giggle and I figured that would be even ruder than if I just didn't acknowledge her... after all... this is the person that sent me text messages in the middle of the night begging me to come to my wedding... even on the night before! (She's not real stable...) She just felt adrift and alone during the entire luncheon.
As for Lauren... I told John... that's boyfriend #6 since I've known her! His answer was... or 7... or 8... or 9! (eeewwww! that's alot of DNA to spread around) The reason I tell you this is... as I was preparing to move after getting married... (we did it quickly because of John's transfer) she left me several nasty notes... Like she was angry and upset about the impression I left on her 16 year old daughter because of my many boyfriends! Now... just saying.... I had 1 boyfriend the entire time I lived there... and I married him. She had a total of 5 boyfriends and slept with 4 of them.... and now has moved on from the last one. To that, we say... Yay for Shay! He dodged a bullet and didn't know it! (That has become our new catch phrase around here!)
I do have some other wonderful stories to share... and they don't really involve rude behavior or cattiness! Yes... I'm being real about it... you don't live with someone for a year and see what they are really about and get treated rudely without some fall out! Just sayin! (Yay for Shay!)
Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne
When we were at the funeral... and we were sitting in the back, I was able to scan across the gathering to see who was there. I noticed several people whom I knew to the right side. And lots of people on the left as well... and some one got up to leave for a few minutes, and opened a hole in my sight line to my ex-roommate! And she was not sitting all snug and cozy to her boyfriend named Shea! She was sitting all snug and cozy to someone else! (What the heck???) When I moved out, she was all set on marrying Shea once her daughter graduated high school and left for college... she was all set to marry him and his mansion and swimming pool in Virginia and never have to work again. (Guess not anymore!)
When she and her boyfriend came out of the chapel... she stood at one end of the foyer and just glared at me... she was as uptight and rigid as a 45 year old cat-gut banjo string set in the sun! She stood there and whispered... and realizing that I was not going anywhere, eventually left!
Later on, after we did our couple of errands and went back to the church... she and her boyfriend had pulled into the parking lot in his Silverado pick up... so we just sat in the car and talked until they made their way into the church... then we got out and made our way in. We greeted people we knew and chatted... Lauren, my roommate, had found seats at a table in the far opposite corner from the door, with her back to us.
Blessings and prayers were said for the food, and the family began to make their way to the buffet table. We were visiting with friends from church that hadn't known or realized that we had gotten married and moved. One friend said she thought she just kept missing me because there had been a 3rd service added and I had come to first service while she attended 3rd. So... there we are, chatting away about life and marriage, and from behind us comes the rudest, nasty voice... of Lauren, "Are you guys in line for food?" With a quick glance up, I laughingly and cheerily said.... "No, we are visiting and talking with friends." And with that, she haughtily sashayed past us and got in line. My friend Kathy came up with her peeps to get in line... and came behind us... I told her to please go ahead of us, and she refused! We had to get in line right behind the rigid, frigid witch for the buffet. Oh... horrors!
While at the reception... I took notice of a few things... Miss Lorrie J was there from bible study. When we were in study, Lauren always referred to Miss Lorrie J as "Mommy" and I always assumed they were close. In later findings... they really weren't close at all... that Lauren really was giving Lorrie J that tag as way of coping with issues with her own real life mother. During this reception, she never interacted with Lorrie J at all and ignored her. Which leads me to my next little nugget.... The Evil Text queen was also there. I knew she probably would be, as she was quite close to my dear friend Miss Char. She was also friends with Lauren.... or so I thought. Lauren also ignored her as well.... and the entire time, we (DH and I) observed that she (Evil Text Queen)did not interact with anyone there. She didn't really speak to anyone. I didn't even try to make eye contact, because I knew that if I did... I'd probably start to giggle and I figured that would be even ruder than if I just didn't acknowledge her... after all... this is the person that sent me text messages in the middle of the night begging me to come to my wedding... even on the night before! (She's not real stable...) She just felt adrift and alone during the entire luncheon.
As for Lauren... I told John... that's boyfriend #6 since I've known her! His answer was... or 7... or 8... or 9! (eeewwww! that's alot of DNA to spread around) The reason I tell you this is... as I was preparing to move after getting married... (we did it quickly because of John's transfer) she left me several nasty notes... Like she was angry and upset about the impression I left on her 16 year old daughter because of my many boyfriends! Now... just saying.... I had 1 boyfriend the entire time I lived there... and I married him. She had a total of 5 boyfriends and slept with 4 of them.... and now has moved on from the last one. To that, we say... Yay for Shay! He dodged a bullet and didn't know it! (That has become our new catch phrase around here!)
I do have some other wonderful stories to share... and they don't really involve rude behavior or cattiness! Yes... I'm being real about it... you don't live with someone for a year and see what they are really about and get treated rudely without some fall out! Just sayin! (Yay for Shay!)
Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne
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