Sunday, May 9, 2010

To Honor My Mother

Today is Mothers Day... I want to wish all those Mothers out there... blessings, and warmth and love for today. I recently lost my mom... and I was asked by my family to write some memories to share. What is written below is what I sent to be shared... my memories of growing up with my Mom.

Memories of Mom…
Some of my earliest memories of Mom… was that she was very, very busy… always.
She would spend hours with Nana and Auntie or her sisters… or she would be involved with something at church… and I would spend my time at Nana’s or Auntie’s. I have fond memories of stories in the front bedroom at Nana’s and lots of laughter coming from that room when Mom and Titi and Carolyn would get together to have girl talk… and the sunlight streaming across the hallway as we sat outside the door.

Our house on Douglas Street, was actually quite small for a family of 6… there was really only one bedroom and 1 bathroom… the girls were in a converted garage and Brian was out in the sunroom and I was tucked into a cove between the kitchen and the sunroom. Mom had an old singer sewing machine with a wood cabinet and flip-top table. She kept it tucked into a closet just outside the bathroom and across from her bedroom. She would let me play on the sewing machine while everyone else was getting ready, to keep me out of the way. (I got carried away one day and ran the needle across my thumbnail, she took very good care of me, but would only let me play on her machine when Dad wasn’t around.) That was also the house where I discovered that little kids cannot climb on nightstands like stairs… I was only 5 when I tried it… and broke the globe on her bedside lamp. I don’t remember my punishment… but I felt bad about that a very long time.

When I was a little kid… we went to Hollywood to the Pantages Theatre to see a matinee of “The Sound of Music”. It was a really big deal… and it was even more special since she bought us the soundtrack… and she would play that for me on the stereo on Sunday afternoons, so I could dance and sing in the living room. I was around 6 because we lived on Panorama Drive by then. Robbie told me that recently Linda and Preston had played that soundtrack for Mom and that even as she was in her own world… she still kept time to the music and enjoyed it so much. We did a lot of Disney movies, when we got to go… and we loved to watch Walt Disney every week after we all got baths… and she made popcorn and lemonade for us. (That was a special treat!)

When we moved to Mt. Shasta, she found life was quite different than living in So. California. Mom always took pride in how she dressed for church. It was hard for her to be in a small town in the 60’s where Ladies were supposed to wear nylons and she found “gals” who wore bobby socks and housecoats to church. She had a favorite dress that is still one of my favorites of hers… it was a black sleeveless sheath dress with a rolled collar. It had beautiful bright flowers in the print… yellows, pinks and red geraniums with green leaves and a few little bright blue flowers for accent. She had the most amazing enameled pin and clip earrings that went with that dress and black patent pumps. I can still see it hanging on the door of her closet at that house.

Living in Mt. Shasta, she was involved with the youth group and would spend weeks planning for all the kids in the “district” to come for a weekend of playing in the snow. She would cook and make casseroles so that everyone would get fed well while they were staying at our church. She even ended up playing nurse when one of the kids was injured and they stayed at our house. She also worked, very hard, for many of the wealthy people in that little town. She worked for doctors, dentists, publishers and mill owners. She did what ever she needed to do; to provide the things she felt were needed to keep her family together. She always worked hard. She sacrificed for her family… always putting us first.

Earlier memories:
The dining room on Douglas Street… how the chairs were curve-backed and round seated with little pleated skirts and brass nail heads. They were perfect for making forts and playing racecars… Mom would let us drag them into the living room and play on them all day and into the evening. I also remember Thanksgiving there with Nana and Papa and the Aunts and Uncles gathered around her table with candles and her cornucopia filled with plastic fruit, we all loved to take the grapes and squeeze them.

She also let us drag the cushions off the sofa and lay them on the floor so we could tumble on them. She would let us disassemble her living room after dinner and she always put it all back after we went to bed. We never woke up to a messy house. There was also a huge bookcase in the foyer between the living room and the kitchen. There was a Worldbook encyclopedia set that we all used… I loved to spend hours going through the Atlas and looking at the maps.

The kitchen on Douglas Street seemed huge to me… and I loved sitting at the bar to eat dinner but was always afraid the partition that separated the 2 sides would come crashing down. Mom always seemed to have a woodstove in every house we lived in… and that little dining area was no exception. It had a little woodstove in the corner and during the wintertime… it was the only heat for my little nook or Brian’s area on the sun porch. She would stoke it up at night and sometimes it would still have embers left in the morning to heat up the kitchen while she made breakfast.

I remember breakfasts at the little bar… plain omelets on toast, French toast and applesauce or everyone’s favorite… French pancakes with melted butter and sugar. We would get up on New Years morning and she would make waffles while we were still in our jammies watching the rose parade on black and white TV. And one of my most favorite dinners sitting at that bar was her homemade tostadas. She’d fry the tortillas and put the meat and refried beans on them and place them in the oven to stay warm. She’d place a large brown grocery bag on the oven rack to help absorb the oils from the tortillas… I can still see the bottle of La Victoria taco sauce sitting on the bar and remember how good it tasted with the fresh lettuce, tomatoes and cheese served on her lazy susan so it would reach all of us.

Mom loved pretty clothes when she was younger… and she always loved shoes. One of my first memories of playtime was the huge dress-up box she had for us. There weren’t just girl clothes in there, but also police uniforms, cowboy outfits, farmer clothes… she had lots of great stuff. She also gave me a pair of high heels that I wish I still had. They were stiletto style with an open toe and brass nail heads on the sides. They also had fabulous rhinestones and sequins in a floral pattern across the top. I loved those shoes… and would wear them constantly. I was also fascinated with horses because of Robbie’s friend, Joyce. I learned that if you took those shoes and placed them inside golashes and ran up and down on the street, it sounded just like horse’s hooves. I also found out that if you did too many times, you would put holes in the heels of the golashes. Mom never got too mad… she usually was too busy to be mad long and if she grounded you… it also meant she couldn’t do anything either.

She was an amazing woman with many talents… she was a good mother and a fabulous grandmother… she had a way with each grandchild that made them each feel so special… and nothing made her happier than getting to fix them their favorite breakfast while sitting at her round oak table with the little red lantern lit in the middle. She loved to watch movies with them on Friday nights with a huge bowl of popcorn… that popcorn tradition is still carried on through the generations even now.

As the youngest… I did have some time as the only one left at home… and Mom and I were left to our own devices… and I discovered that she could be very funny. We would spend time sitting on my bed talking and suddenly, we would be laughing and not be able to stop. We would just look at each other and crack up, and start all over again. Mom liked to sing and I remember singing in Christmas Musicals with her… and she would bring warm lemonade for us to sooth our voices in rehearsals. She loved to sing. She loved music and she loved to dance.


Even in her later years… she was always a worker. I recently shared with (DH) that my first Christmas at Leather Loft, we had a big break in… I got a call at 12:30 in the morning to go and oversee the clean up. She came down to the store at 3:00am to check on me and bring me “Charlie-dog” to protect me as I waited for the glass crew to finish up. She worked tirelessly at the Love-Inc clothing bank… in the cold… taking Dottie-dog with her to keep her company and be her second set of ears to alert her if someone was nearby. She was so upset when Dottie-dog ate rat poison that she didn’t know was being put down… and rushed her to the vet. She saved my little dogs life. But we all know… she was just doing what she always did… taking care of all of us.



She really didn’t like a lot of fuss… she really enjoyed the simple things in life. She loved ice cream on cold nights. She loved chocolate and Mexican food. She enjoyed a good shopping trip to Goodwill or Salvation Army… always happy with her “good finds”. She loved her kids… she adored her Grandkids… and was thrilled with her Great-Grandkids. She wanted nothing more than to be in a simple little log cabin in the woods with a wood stove, her round oak table and her family to make good, wholesome food for… everyone feeling loved and happy.

Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne



I love you, Mom... hope you're having a great time up there with Lizzy's Mom, and Sandy's Mom and Julie's Mom too! I miss you... please come visit in my dreams.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Random Dozen

1. What was the last thing about which you procrastinated?
I am a huge procrastinator when it comes to doing housework... I hate it and hate that I have to constantly pick up after my DH.
2. How long does it take you to fall asleep, and do you sleep through the night?
I can go 50/50 on that... for years, I'd fall asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow. Then thyroid cancer entered my life. Sleep only comes with assistance from Ambien these days... and if I don't take it correctly, it won't work. But when I do, I sleep all night long.
3. Which decade would you choose to exemplify your favorite fashion styles?
That would be the 70's... love my jeans, flowly loose tops, and birkenstocks!
4. What is your personal best dish to feed a crowd?
That would be my mac and cheese, or bbq beef and potato salad.
5. Are you an impulse shopper? What was the last thing you bought on impulse?
I can be... I love shoes and handbags and accessories.
6. What is one wish you have for your own funeral?
Pink Roses.... good music and great party after!
7. If it's true that joy is in found in the simple things in life, what does your joy look like today?
















8. What is your favorite type of bread?
A sweet yeast bread that makes fabulous dinner rolls or cinnamon rolls!
9. What trait do you fear developing the most? (Laziness, greediness, grumpiness, etc.)
I think greediness... I have all that I need, really... and I would hate to feel that I would need "more" to be happy.

10. What trait would you like most to develop?
I would like to develop my trait of hospitality, to be a more confident hostess.

11. Which room in your house best reflects your personality? Why?
All the rooms in my house reflect my personality, but it would be a toss-up between the living room and kitchen right now. (Both are undergoing changes and updates right now!)
12. How do you maintain balance in your life regarding, work, family, church, other organizations and activities, and blogging?
My life is actually in balance right now... I choose what I want to do, after spending time with my husband... he's my top priority.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Back Update...

Today was my 4th appointment with the chiropractor. I was feeling a little more like myself yesterday and did a couple of normal things... like grocery shop and cook dinner. Today... my back felt as straight and stiff as a well-ironed starched white shirt. It was tough going to get my spine to manipulate in any direction. (kind of like being put in cement!) When my visit was done.... (after going on the table, the massage table and having "combo" electro shock therapy) the doctor checked on how I was feeling. I told him I was glad not to feel like I was encased in cement and could move again. He grimaced and said he couldn't handle it if I were in cement... to which I answered that I thought he was Superman! He laughed and said he wasn't Superman but he did own a jack hammer!

So... I'm back on my schedule of icing my back and resting as much as I can so my back can heal. My loving DH is doing all he can to help me in between his working and doing paperwork. I am still navigating going up and down stairs, tho quite slowly... Punky is running circles around me as I go down the stairs. I am hoping that soon my back will feel better and I can get busy with flower planting.

Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Pardon My Absence!

It's been a rather strange week for me, having DH gone to New York and having discovered that my rib is dislocated. I've been spending my time either taking the dogs in and out or laying on ice, in between trips to the chiropractor. This isn't going to be an easy process of getting the straying rib to go back into place. It's also been causing me great chest pain... but at least I know why! Next week I will see the chiropractor 3 times... and from that, we will see if I need to stay at 3 times a week or cut it back.

My doctor prescribed flexeril for me... the first 2 days it didn't work too well... I kept waking up. But last night it knocked me out cold and I'm still a little groggy. It worked very well.

DH came home last night... we will have to deal with all the unpacking today and tomorrow. He's gone to enjoy the beautiful weather we're having and do some much needed fishing. I'm thinking that we may have to plants some flowers later on in the evening hours, if I am up to it. For now... I will follow doctors orders and ice my back, yet again. (We all know how much I love to be cold! Not! Brrrrrrr!)

Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Much To My Surprise!

I had a doctors appointment today. I was mentally prepared to have to go through a laundry list of items about things, but two items on my list were good! My blood pressure is down to a very delightful 132/82 and I have managed to keep some weight off and the doctor is quite pleased.

We discussed having to do my body scan this year... and I said that I didn't really want to do it. I told him that I would rather have a Thyrogen shot series, which is much easier on the body and I don't have to take more radioactive iodine. He is referring me to a specialist and not to the endocrinologist I had last year.

And... we discussed my back issue... what I thought was a "disc issue" and went to physical therapy for last year. (Or was it this year?) Anyway... the doctor went poking down my thoracic spine... first down the right side and then over to the left, where he discovered that my issue is actually that I have a dislocated rib! That is what has been causing my chest pain... proven when he came around to the front of my rib cage and pressed! Causing me to almost fall off the table as I gasped and tears came to my eyes.

So... I've been referred to a chiropractor... and prescribed some serious muscle relaxers for bedtime. I guess this explains why I am in pain when I do dishes or unload the dishwasher, try to cook or carry anything upstairs. I can't wait to start getting "adjusted" so that I can feel better!

Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne

Monday, April 26, 2010

Simple Woman's Daybook...


FOR TODAY (April 26, 2010)...
Outside my window...It's a steady gray rain, with an occasional thunder cloud.
I am thinking... of my brother... it's his birthday today! Happy Birthday, Brian!
I am thankful for... my hardworking husband (who is gone for the week on a work trip), my sweet dogs, my friends who love me no matter what and good health insurance!
From the kitchen...nothing is going on... I don't have to cook until Friday... so it's gonna be a lot of stuff out of the freezer!
I am wearing... my usual... jeans, white t-shirt and a hoodie, birkenstocks and socks.
I am creating... a clean closet in my bedroom (still!)
I am going... to see the doctor tomorrow... I have questions to ask him about doing my body scan this year... I want Thyrogen!
I am hoping... this week flies by while DH is gone.
I am hearing... the rain, the school bus, and the dogs snoring on the floor behind me.
Around the house... the dishwasher needs to be emptied, and a few things need to be put away, but that's all!
One of my favorite things... is how generous my husband is... he loves me alot!
A few plans for the rest of the week: going to see the doctor, maybe going to the movies... and maybe meeting someone for dinner! (I don't know who yet!)

Thanks for reading... be blessed!

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Up to What?

I was laying pretty low most of yesterday... my back has been killing me. I rested most of the day and tried not to really move much. I even slept in the chair for awhile... with a little red dog in my lap. DH came home from work and just let me sleep.

Later, he woke me up and told me that he was taking care of dinner... he was taking me out. We ended up doing our old favorite of Cracker Barrel. We went south and tried to make the best of it with the ditz of a waitress we had. I think she was trying too hard. On the way out... I spied the book rack and ended up picking up another Gooseberry Patch cookbook to add to my collection. (There was a time when I would never miss one of their books, but I was running out of room and it just wasn't really feasible to buy more.) Anyway, I picked up "Casseroles" because it had great seafood dishes that DH would really like.

DH also called our landlord yesterday. We had told him a couple of weeks ago that we had a leak in the ceiling... and nothing happened. So, last Saturday while he was delivering flowers to the shop, DH stopped him and brought him into the living room to show him the ceiling tiles so he could see how bad it was. So... DH called to check on the status of things... and Mr. S blew up at him! Anyway... today, the roofer is coming to fix the roof... and I am stuck waiting. (I would have never known if DH hadn't called him, I was set to do shopping today.)

So... here I sit... waiting and trying not to go too crazy. Punky wants to jump in my lap and go to sleep. Hmmm... napping is not a bad way to pass the time while we wait.... zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

Thanks for reading... be blessed!
~Suzanne